#MeToo Reformation

My first husband tried to kill me.  I am here today because a neighbor called the police. I am Lutheran because my first husband was Lutheran. I was raised Catholic. His Lutheran pastor refused to marry us because of the abuse. He advised me to get away before I married my first husband. My Catholic…

#MeToo A Brave New Culture

A few years ago the trending domestic violence hashtag was #whyIstayed or #whyIleft in defense of domestic violence victims after the media released footage of a NFL wife violently punched yet she stayed in the relationship. What kind of woman stays in an abusive relationship? Brave. It takes courage to stay. It is not easy…


I was twenty.  He invited me to a party.  He did not ask if I wanted to be raped. It should have been safe. It was the apartment of my brother’s friend. But it was not. They laughed and someone handed me an open can of beer. I took a few sips. Everything got fuzzy. I…

Simple Truth About Pink Hats

Advocacy is not for the faint-hearted. Advocacy is a strange roller coaster of similar and not so similar people jumping on a train before knowing how fast the car will go to its highest peak before it drops to its lowest and back and forth around turns until the ride ends with a stream of…

Successful Advocate

Bob Bland, Founder and Co-Chair of the Women’s March on Washington is a successful advocate. Ms. Bland was successful in turning her election grief into an incredible National Committee which organized the historical Women’s March on Washington with an inspiring panel of speakers to call their fellow grieving sisters (and brothers) to join them in…

How to Heal from Post Election Grief

Be glad, rejoice in the Lord your God, for he has given you the autumn rains because God is faithful. God sends abundant showers, both autumn and spring rains, as before. Joel 2:23 NIV Great verse for Singing in the Rain but I’m not in the mood. I wish I was because it is definitely raining and my heart…

DV Awareness Volunteers- Has the world changed?

Forgive me world. Does a volcano know when it is ready to explode? October is domestic violence awareness month so it’s time for my annual growl for justice. I’m ashamed to admit this is more of a quiet hiss – a sad, embarrassing testimony for all our raped brothers and sisters or domestic violence victims hiding…

My Journey 

Psalm 4:8

In peace I will lie down and sleep,

for you alone, Lord

make me dwell in safety.

Teachable Moment – Rape

This is the post I hope inspires new readers to dispel rape myths and support victims of sexual assault.

Veil of Shame

Thank you Lord for freeing me from my enemies and releasing my tongue to share our journey. I pray for our sisters and brothers chained by shame. Please provide them a way out, help them see it and give them the courage to run for safety! Amen

An Open Letter to My Sister

It is tempting to write a fictional ‘sisters make the best friends’ letter to you. Facebook gives me the opportunity to ‘like’ ‘I love my sister’ posts and linger before moving on…but this isn’t that kind of letter.